Sunday, February 26, 2017

Knowing you? or Loving you?

As they walked towards the beach, she felt lighter being in his company than she did a few days back. She felt acquainted to him again. She now felt more comfortable after witnessing how he tipped the driver more than generously and recollecting what he had said to him.

After reaching the beige colored sands, which got darker as the sun was setting, they picked a place to sit down.

“You’re still kind. You just have a warped sense of feeling that you have changed. I still feel that you’re the same guy I met more than two decades ago. Maybe you just feel you’ve changed, but it isn’t true.” She said, as she looked towards the horizon.

“I think you’re miscalculating, and I never want you to do that.” he said.

After her silence to this, while she smiled a little, he continued, “I was kind to that driver due to the limited view I had of his facts and his horrid circumstance and he seemed like a good person. That’s all. I am sure if I would know him well enough, things may have been different.”

“But you do love some people in your life, and I know you love me. You know all of us well. What you’re saying doesn’t make sense.” She said

“I don’t think that’s love on its own. That is a result of responsibility and comfort. Most of the times, love is the result of comfort due to what we think we know. Most of the times, the more you know someone, can result in two things – one is comfort, and the other is discomfort or indifference, and sometimes hate. Most times, comfort supersedes love. I am sure if I know someone too well, I wouldn’t love them and hence I feel it’s better to not know everyone completely, because then I just know that no one, even me, is worthy of receiving the thing called flawless love; because you know, there is no such thing.”  

He tapped his snuffbox, and administered a nice fat pinch. He looked at her and she looked perplexed.

“Don’t worry. Even I don’t understand this sometimes. All I know is, this is the way it is.” 

Saturday, February 18, 2017


Bullies. You’ll find them anywhere and everywhere. They come in different age groups, forms and will encounter you at different places – at work, at a gathering, and at other places where you’re forced right into a situation with them. They will tease you, poke fun at you, and make you feel less belonged to any place just because of their own insecurities or their idea of ‘fun.’ They’ll be high maintenance in every aspect in their own circle, demanding instead of requesting, arguing instead of understanding and imposing instead of getting a perspective – and most of all, they’ll be ridiculously unfair.

Two or more bullies sometimes form a pact and try to target one individual after standing on a pedestal of self-imposed illusion of what they might say ‘attitude’. Now, I am not interested in writing about what makes them so. That’s psychiatry. And that’s not on what I am delving in here. There have been so many reported suicide cases due to ragging that I cannot count. Just google on it and check for yourself. And those which are not reported, the large majority, and those who don’t fall in the extremes, are always living in constant fear of them and live a much suffocated life.

Bullies feed on the timidity and decency of their victims through their senseless idea of fun or a fuel to their taken-for-granted attitude. Sometimes their humor is labeled as ‘harmless fun’ when confronted or questioned, or they’ll just shrug it off and push it more – just because they can.

I was a very timid child during my school days, and that carried on during my entire adolescence and yes, during my adulthood which is not very much in the past. I couldn’t say ‘no’, would fall prey to the fear the bullies created that they will do some harm in my usual course of life – and mind you, and I was afraid. Very afraid. But after understanding their psychology and deep diving into their personas, I see that it is not tough to confront them.

To all who can relate to this in the form of a victim, my thoughts go out to you. If you think someone can help you, talk it out with someone you truly trust. There is no self-worth in being quiet or ‘taking it’ all the time. There is no decency in letting people dominate you in the wrong way. There is no calm useful to your mind which creates an unrest within your soul. Stand up and stand strong. Beat their arrogance by knowledge and logic, their harshness by maturity, their persistence with your force. All I can say is, they’re really not that important. The moment you stop giving them what they crave for, they die like vampires would die without blood. So, don’t feed them your fear.
So - Strategize. Confront. And take the stand which is rightly yours.  

Thursday, February 9, 2017

Karma? Who are you?

Let us think about Karma for a moment – and its psychological and actual effect in our lives. I always think that it is a force of nature which unveils itself – sometimes suddenly, sometimes it takes its time. When people think about Karma, mostly people think in the way of – do good, good will come back; and do bad, it will come back too. But somehow I don’t really think that’s how Karma works. 

Karma has a personality, (and in fact it has multiple personalities which are in ORDER) I think, if you believe it or not. Some people think they can set off their bad deeds with good deeds. I know right now, while I am laughing at this ideology, Karma is sitting beside me in a rocking chair and having a pipe, giving me that sly smile – because it knows I understand it. Look here people – Karma isn’t a child that you can give a candy or a toy and make it believe something you want it to, or even something you believe. Karma has sharp eyes, a sharper vision and a killer attention to detail. So know this now (and I know for some of you it comes as a bad news) – bad karma cannot be and will not ever be set off by good karma. 

Zonked? Wondering whether I am high? I certainly am not. What I mean is that bad deeds will be taken care of in their own time and will take their own might. You’ve done a bad deed? Be sure Karma is going to equate it for you. Sometimes it might be harsh, sometimes not. It is a sum combination of your guilt, regret (and if you do have such a thing as awareness) and Karma power packs it with actions in its own time and way.

Good deeds will not help in erasing your bad ones. Period. Your good deeds are most certainly, well, good in their own way – if they are not selfish. And when I mean good deeds, I don’t mean just looking after your parents, feeding the hungry, donating, charity or just being a good Samaritan or a concerned citizen. What I mean it – you must FEEL like doing it without you being selfish about what soul energy or ‘happiness’ you get. If they do set something off, they are your own soul, feelings and realizations. You do it because that is you, not because it makes you feel good. That’s selfish! Confused? Good, you should be – because Karma is not one but many personalities in one. I was confused until I found out how it operates. But then when it’s clear, I don’t think any vision is near its excellence.

So, do good or bad – and see what happens. Maybe nothing will happen, maybe something will; maybe a lot will. But I know one thing – what you feel and what you will be will change, and that, boys and girls is ultimately what matters.